Why You Don’t Have to Please Everybody & What to do About It

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Are you a people pleaser? Do you always try to say “yes” to all things your are capable of doing? (And some you’re not?)

That’s not good. You’re going to overwhelm yourself.

Find peace and learn why you shouldn’t try to please everybody and how to say no (in kindness).

Moms are people pleasers

I have suffered with this my whole life. I want people to like me. I want them to think I’m kind, funny, and smart. I want them to want to be around me.

But that doesn’t always happen.

There are so many types of people on God’s green Earth. People who all have their own desires and things they enjoy.

Those people like what they like, and there’s not much we can do to change what they like… so we try to fit the mold of what they like already.

Let me tell you why that is a problem.


What does “Children are a Heritage of the Lord” Mean?

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What does “Children are a heritage of the Lord” mean?

Short answer: Children are given to us from the Lord.

It is one of the ways he can bless us. Sometimes we can feel like it is a burden, though. The world certainly likes to tell us that children are burdensome.

I know that is not the nicest thing to say about having children, but if you’ve been in the parenting game very long, you know how it feels to be kept awake by crying children. Or you know how exasperating it is to deal with temper tantrums and backtalking.

And it can feel like a burden. Something that causes us stress.

But, even in those moments, we know how we feel toward our children. We love them. We are glad they are with us. And if you’re like me, you would be glad to have more.

I feel like even those moments, when they are causing me stress or heartache, is a blessing when I sit down to think about it. Why? Because it reminds me how God feels toward his children, you know… me.


What does “Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger” Mean?

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What does “Do not provoke your children to anger” mean?

How are we supposed to raise good kids without making them angry?

Parenting is hard.

And kids just don’t do what you tell them to do, right? It feels like they just aren’t listening… or they have the worst memories in the world.

Or, like I like to tell myself when my children aren’t listening, they don’t understand what I told them.

While these things may occasionally be true, the truth is that kids have wonderful memories and abilities to learn and understand.

That’s why we teach them so many things when they are kids, because it’s easier to learn new things when you are younger.

Conscience and personality are thought to be set by around age 5.

Why is this important? Because if you don’t teach your child right from wrong by this age, you are doing a serious disservice to your child (and everyone who knows him/her).


What does “Teach Them Diligently” mean? Deuteronomy 6:7

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What does “teach them diligently” mean?

Do you take the job of teaching your children about God and his word seriously? If so, you may have wondered that before.

The Bible has some lessons for us as Christian parents. Lessons we should take to heart and do, not just read about and feel bad about not doing.

You shall teach them diligently to your children,
and shall talk of them when you sit in your house,
and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down,
and when you rise.

Deuteronomy 6:7 (ESV)

I’ve been wondering what all I should do as a Christian mother.

Deuteronomy 6:7 is one verse I think of first when I want to ask God if I’m doing enough as a mother.


20 Ideas You Can Use to Have a Debt-free Christmas

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Have you ever had your name in the paper?

Was it for a good reason, or bad? Imagine your name is right there, unmistakably yours, in the Sheriff’s Sales section. You home is being auctioned off because you can’t afford your payments. Your debt is too large.

It’s humiliating.

Everyone will see it.

And there isn’t much you can do about it.

The debt is too large, and you simply can’t make the payments.

Not only will you be dealing with the humiliation of the situation, but you’ll also be giving up this home that you have worked on, created, loved, and cherished for years. Maybe your kids grew up in it. Maybe it was your dream home that you designed and built yourself.

It doesn’t matter. You have too much debt.

Now you only have maybe a month to move out. And say goodbye to it forever.

And this was all because you have too much debt.


Why You Should Learn to Admit You’re Wrong + 4 Tips How

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Have you ever been in the midst of an argument and realized you were wrong?

Or at least not completely right? I have. Many times. Yet, somehow, I have managed to hardly ever admit I’m wrong.

In my mind, it’s like if I admit I am wrong, I admit I’m weak or worst case scenario– I could possibly be wrong at other times.

I don’t know why that’s so important to me. Because to be honest, I admire people who can admit they’re wrong. My husband is one of those people. He can admit he’s wrong. And I always admire him when he does it.

Do you know what happens when he does that when we’ve disagreed about something? After a very brief moment of relief that the disagreement is over, I feel inadequate.

Because I know that being able to admit it when you are wrong is the better attribute.

Being able to admit when you’re wrong is more important than always being “right.”


How Much do TV and Social Media Affect your Spending?

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How much are your spending habits affected by TV and Social Media?

Do you suffer from want-everything-your-see syndrome?

If I had that computer, it would be easier to do my work. If I had that treadmill, I could walk at home anytime I wanted. I need that dress, because I don’t have anything nice to wear anymore. My phone doesn’t do all those things I just saw on that commercial–my phone is too old. I need to get a new one.

These are some of the things I tell myself when I buy things. Things I don’t really need. And, worse yet, things I sometimes don’t have the excess income to buy.

But despite all the reasons I shouldn’t buy these things, I will sometimes buy these things anyway.

And I know I’m not the only person like that. As a matter of fact, I think my inclination to do that is much less than a lot of people I know.


Does God Care if we Worry? Find out What the Bible Says

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Does it matter to God if we worry?

How much do you worry? I know a lot of people worry too much. Anxiety is an epidemic in modern times. Today’s world is just filled with people who are so busy worrying, that they can’t enjoy what God has given them and means for them to enjoy.

Sure, bad things happen.

Or hard times seem frequent…

but when we worry, we are basically telling God we don’t trust him.

I’ve been a worrier myself, in the past. And sometimes even now I will worry about things. But, I don’t dwell-worry like I used to.

Do you know what I mean? When you dwell-worry, you let the thing you are worrying about keep your mind occupied during all waking hours.

And sometimes it keeps you awake at night. You run through different scenarios of how things could work out.

And if you’re like me, you run through the bad scenarios. The worst case scenarios.


What is Biblical Submission? A Gift from Wives to Husbands

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What is Biblical Submission?

Is biblical submission necessary and how does it even work in modern times?

My husband and I had been married over a decade before I found out he doesn’t want me to be “submissive.”

It’s funny to think back on, but we were both rather surprised by each other’s views on biblical submission.

I’m a very conservative person, and while my husband is also conservative compared to many other people, I am a good amount more conservative than he is, in general.

And especially when it comes to our interpretations of biblical ideals on our modern lives.

To be frank, I think the Bible says, in no uncertain terms, that wives (not all women) should be submissive to their husbands (not all men).

What exactly “biblical submission” means seems to vary among people, from what I have seen.

And that’s probably why my husband doesn’t want me to be “submissive,” because he doesn’t want to disrespect me in that way by requiring me to be meek and having to command me to do things.

Because that’s what a lot of people think Biblical submission means.


Why Should you have Regular Family Dinners with your Extended Family?

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Why should you have regular family dinners with your extended family?

We’re all too busy to do that. Is it worth it to add such a commitment to our already busy schedules?

My father-in-law stopped by after his doctor appointment last week. He hadn’t received good news, and I could tell he was upset. While we still don’t know for sure what is going on, I think this is the exact issue that prompted our family to start intentionally planning dinners together.

We used to have regular family dinners, but as our families get larger and careers more pressing and time consuming, we have had less and less family dinners.

And that’s a shame.

We should have regular times we spend with our families and for no reason at all, other than each other’s company.

And that’s what we’re planning in my family.